Breakup Loss



Falling in love and coming together in a relationship is easier than maintaining it. Whether a relationship is short-term or a long-term, people tend to get emotionally attached to the other person. The attachment is etched so deeply in the minds, that the breakups have a painful impact on us, more mentally than emotionally.

A breakup can be very painful because it represents the loss of shared dreams and commitments between the two. A healthy relationship begins with full of excitement and hope for the future but when these relationships fail the feeling of disappointment, stress and grief overpowers the senses and all the joys of life become redundant. Sometimes the impact of a breakup is such that a person loses his/her will to live and take extreme steps. Psychologists suggest that the people around such a person should be sensitive and help them through this stage to bring them back to their lives.

Here are a few people who share their breakup experiences:

1.      “I was in a relationship for a year and five months. It was love at first sight and after talking to her on instagram for some time we exchanged numbers. She confessed her feelings towards me and we started dating. But due to some trust issues, we called it off. Though we are still friends, but it’s not easy to control my emotions. I still re-read our conversation and that keeps me going. I miss her, but sometimes if it’s not meant to be, it won’t.” – Naman

2.      “I was in a relationship with my classmate for nine months. We were attracted towards each other but soon we realized that we are not happy with each other. We were not at all compatible and our differences led to endless fights. I think it was a right decision. Though initially it hurt a lot, but with the support of my friends and family I came out of it stronger.”- Tanya

3.      “My relationship was two years and five months old when we decided to part ways. I was actually helping my friend to propose to her, but instead of helping him I proposed to her. The problems began when we changed our schools in 11th standard. She started ignoring me and alter I got to know that she was seeing someone else. I was heartbroken but had no choice but to let it go.” – Vipul

Coping Mechanism


Socialise a lot. Spending more time with your friends and family can help you in coming out of the pain faster and better. You might want to be alone but you will realize that socializing was the best decision.

If you and your ex decide to be friends, it’s better to keep your feelings aside before taking this step forward. If you think you won’t be able to handle this, then break the communication at all the levels and take your time before you going back to be ‘just friends’.

Delete all the memories of your past. There is no harm in keeping the pictures or gifts with you but if they are depressing you, then get rid of them. Hide it somewhere in your closet if you can’t throw it away.
Stay away from a rebound relationship as it may turn out to be a good idea. Stay single for a while and enter a relationship once you are over with the moaning perio

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